“Try to register for your dream major’s required courses and work hard. I’m not telling you to start working at a ‘ignore everything’ level, because that’s not healthy and that’s what causes burnout.”
“If you're only taking summer courses and you're not working a good number of hours, you don't really understand how stressful summer courses can be. I've only taken one summer course before and it was while I was working over 50 hours a week.”
“Talk about your needs, talk about your wants, talk about what scares you and what you wish your life was and how you feel when you wake up in the morning. Talk to your partner and hope they talk back.”
“A relationship shouldn’t be in competition with the ones of the past, because you can never win against a romanticized past. Your relationship should be in the present not in the past. You shouldn’t be shamed by your number of past sexual partners.”
“In all of my classes here, the final assignment or exam of the class is the only one that matters. It's worth 100% of my mark. In all my classes. All due within five days of each other. I can't afford to get below a 2:1 while here.”
“If you did fail the class, take a moment and remember this is not a reflection on who you are and grades don't mark what kind of person you are. Then decide if you're going to retake the class for your degree or major...”
“If you're not taking summer classes — I understand, some of us have to work those summer hours — but you'll be working on campus over the summer or maybe will live there, you'll notice just how many students have stayed to work or study too.”
"But if you’re just drinking casually and still ending up sad, it might be just how you are when you’re drunk. Are you going through a stressful time? Are you worried about something? I also have the pleasure of being a generally happy drunk..."
“My religion and politics professor is one of the most respected scholars in his field — someone whose articles I’ve been reading since first-year. I had a not-so-mild case of scholarly fangirling when I realized that.”
If you hate the pattern, break it. Ask if they want to go on a date doing something you've never done before. Cooking class? Wine and painting? Rent bikes and ride around Stanley Park? Get our there and get moving. Force your relationship to move.
"Don't do it over text because tone is so easy to misunderstand with text. Be honest and say that their jokes have crossed a line. Tell them what you wrote me and tell them the level they've been going at isn't appropriate anymore."
In a lot of ways, Stuart McLean was my first love. I grew up with him and his stories. The Vinyl Cafe was a staple in my life. Every Sunday at noon on the dot, CBC Radio would be on and Stuart's voice filled our home.
They could have had this talk already and decided to want to keep it casual. There's nothing wrong with that, but it does make it awkward when your friends start coupling the two of you up all the time when you decided against that.
The same advice applies when talking about anything to do with sex: communication and consent are key. What works for one person might be completely wrong for others. Different strokes for different folks — pun absolutely intended.
“Not that I would have minded, but the societies I joined rarely met or only had paid events. On top of that, the flat I moved into in September was a bit of a bust socially. I felt lost in first term, but then all of a sudden I was found.”