Ask Sexy Natalie: communication and consent are key

Dear Sexy Natalie,

How do you feel closer to your partner when in bed?

I’m guessing you’re not talking about sleeping here! But the same advice applies when talking about anything to do with sex: communication and consent are key. What works for one person might be completely wrong for others. Some people like a lot of eye contact to feel intimate, but some like… knowing that their partner isn’t going to choke them too hard. Different strokes for different folks — pun absolutely intended.

My girlfriend really wants to be dominated in the bedroom. How do I do this?

Let me say it again for the people in the back: communication and consent. What are both your and her comfort levels? What does “domination” mean for her exactly? Where do you want to draw the line? Talk about this beforehand, and think of a safe word or just go with the “green, yellow, red” rule. Remember, if you don’t feel comfortable dominating her or you just know that you won’t have a good time, say so — consent goes both ways! Make sure you give each other proper aftercare. And have fun!